I too once had the same feelings with regards to EMG pickups, sterile, made for metal etc. I don't really blame you guys or myself since most of their endorsees comprise of metal bands - Metallica, Fear Factory, Meshuggah etc.
But artists like Lukather, David Gilmour, Vince Gill etc use them as well.
I'm currently using an EB/MM Luke loaded with EMG pickups, they're far from sterile. Cut through the mix like a hot knife through butter. Full of clarity and definition. You can hear every single damn nuance on these pickups, a clear signal for me to clean up my technique.
They're an acquired taste for sure. But most die hard passive players love the single coil tones of the SA and SLV sets. My friend who swears by his Suhr V60s love the tones I get from my single coil positions. I can get a pretty nice "Axis Bold as Love" tone from my second position, mixing both neck and middle single coils.
I suggest you try EMG's lower output range. There's load of good tones waiting for you right there.
Don't come cheap though, and they also require space for a battery. So do choose wisely.
Christopher.