Do Your Parents Support You?

[wannor]

hello again people. I'm speaking from experience when I say that most so-called traditional parents will never support their children when they want to pursue a career in music. For example, ME! I'm probably a Grade 5 or 6 in guitar performance and a Grade 1 or 2(just started) in music theory but I'LL NEVER KNOW! Why? Because my parents don't and won't support my passion.

And i'm like pointing out to the that music can be a skill that can put food on the table. Yet they do not listen.

So, anyone else poorly supported? And if you did change your parent's perception of it, how?
Thank You

 

[bigblackbear]

for things such as these, i would say it would be almost IMPOSSIBLE to change your parent's thinking if they have a preconceived mindset about playing music as a career.

their logic behind it is simple. they've lived long enough to know that playing music as a career can't bring you far. plus they always use stuff like "i've eaten more salt than you've eaten rice (in chinese)" to counter your.

so well, i gave up trying to persuade them.

 

[wannor]

Yup,I guess so. They can make fun of us,and critique us all they want, but we still will carry on our passion

 

[theunknown]

grow up, be good, earn money, prove them wrong.

im lucky my parents give me the freedom to do what i want as long as its not wrong. maybe cause of my family background. father is a singer in a elvis fan club, granpa rumoured to be an orchestra conductor. huaha.

some people are even luckier. their parents give monetory support even. personally even if my parents are rich, i wouldnt want that. im with the principle of good things should be earned.

 

[originallyfira]

my parent oso DONT SUPPORT ONE! she scolded me for buying a bass D: and it was a cash converters bass. god i should have bought there. =_= too late for regrets. anyway.....i gave up trying to make her see the good side of music. she's been against it since i was in a school band. like you know...concert band.

 

[syam41]

my parents on the other hand gave me 1k to spend on musical instruments. spend it on an elec, amp, overdrive pedal, an acoustic guitar etc etc. after that nothing else as im all on my own. cannot even ask for money to get new strings or cables now. lol.

but i consider myself lucky enough. i guess its because my dad himself plays the guitar and learn classical at yamaha music school.

id say, prove them wrong. just dont, neglect your studies. that would be stupid. play music, at the same time, get good grades.

 

[boyshafiq]

my parents, especially my mum, will give me the look everytime i told her i'm going jamming with my friends or going to a gig.

mention her guitars, music, and gigs, she will give those looks where you will feel you are in the wrong.

well she neither support me nor scold me. i would say i do have the freedom but i can tell my mum is not pleased with it.

as long as i don't get into trouble, my mum is okay with it.

so far, so good. =)

 

[shinobi]

ever wondered the reasons why a 15 year old kid still has his parents calling the shots while a 25 year old man, who has (or is at least capable of having) a job that pays for his food and shelter, doesn't have this kind of problem?

when you are young you probably can't even imagine, in your wildest dreams, that there may come a time where you are the ones telling your parents what to do, and not the other way round.

 

[velvetrevolver]

parents... just tahan their nagging. won't be long more. (harsh, but true)

 

[edyeo123]

my parents do support me, but they always remind me to prioritize my time properly...

 

[visa]

my parents absolutely hate and despise that music is a part of my life, and they refuse to accept it. I have to hide my basses and guitars and everything at my bandmates' houses, and make up excuses to jam or play shows.

it's tough, but i'm not going to give up just because of some petty disapproval.

 

[penta-tonic]

my parents are super supportive, but that said, all the money i spent on gear has came from my own pocket, my parents believe that this life is meant to be enjoyed so as long as it aint breaking the law, causing grievious hurt to others, its cool.

 

[a beautiful world]

I think if you truly want your parents to support you, you have to show them that you are serious. Being serious about music isn't about whining, or wearing cool clothes, or telling people you're in a band. Borrow books from the library, learn to read and write standard notation and learn music from books, and practice, practice, practice. Play stuff they like. Don't neglect your studies (i.e. be responsible). But practice hard and show you're good at it. I believe they'll support you.

Music is, surely, a difficult livelihood. But there's no harm in having it as a serious hobby, or a sideline from which to earn some cash. I don't think your parents would have an issue with that.

 

[TravisK]

Ah...common worries.
My folks didn't support my music either. Though i started late at 18.
All i did is just to brush their naggings away kindly, get gears with my own money from part-time jobs and show them photos of the shows i played.
But even then,They still dissaproved.

Until, i'm earning my own stable income through Music.



And that's how my parents supported my music eventually.

 

[Fudd]

my parents absolutely hate and despise that music is a part of my life, and they refuse to accept it. I have to hide my basses and guitars and everything at my bandmates' houses, and make up excuses to jam or play shows.QUOTE]

Yea.. Im with visa on that. Im guilty of jamming and playing gigs without my parents knowing. It sucks but i guess thats how my parents roll. Im not asking them to support but to approve my passion. Well, at least my mum is starting to understand my love for music. Not sure if my dad ever will...

 

[THOA]

Discovered my passion for music on my own, which was pretty late in my life. Had only my PC and karaoke mic to put this expression to form. When PC crashed, didn't acquire one till I was 25. Bought my guitar when I was 27. Didn't get much opportunity to really play it till I was 28, and only managed to appreciate
the the art and beauty of guitar music a few months back after acquiring a few much needed equipments.

Would parents support help me to discover this earlier? Maybe. But in my case, even if parents don't object, money has always been an issue. So classes and even instruments were out of the question.

So whether with parents support or not, be thankful that you can get this far with the resources that manage to acquire. Many other factors could have prevented you from pursuing this as well.

Some people in Singapore can't afford 24hrs electricity. Much less a bass or a guitar. I wonder sometimes how many talents go undiscovered cos of this?

 

[blueprintstudios]

Level 0) Talent - Yes/No question. Optional.
Level 1) Interest - the initial spark
Level 2) Passion - the campfire
Level 3) Drive - the wood to keep the fire going
Level 4) Results/Reality Check - You got the BBQed Chicken but does it taste good enough to be shared with everone/put up for sale?

Do you have all 4?

Passion is something you will never find anything in it except disappointment. But yet in each state of disappointment (e.g obstacle/failure) gets you yearning for more, and you derive personal satisfaction from your journey of disappointments. So it's definitely not for the weak-hearted.

*Side track : Talent vs Effort - if you were born talented you got an advantage, but if you WEREN'T born talented, and people start telling you "damn man you're great at what you do!" , that means you've put in shit loads of effort enough to "appear talented", remember to take a break once in a while. remember rule 3 and 4. you need your health to keep your passion going.

P.S : forgot to include. I'm on crap terms with my parents and I broke contact with my entire traditional-chinese-COMPARING-grades/status/career-family and stay focus on my passion.extreme? maybe. but don't waste your time with people who don't put themselves in your shoes before throwing brainless remarks.

90cents worth.

 

[teleplayer]

I agree. We're living in asia and people are influenced by confucius... and feels that the people who performs are 戏子 which means that it's is very embarassing to do such a job... Plus, people in singapore still couldn't accept music and see it as a career.... However, my parents do support me but they want me to complete university before pursuing my music dream...

 

[Girlpants]

grow up, be good, earn money, prove them wrong.

Exactly.
My parents are okay with the noise now.
They used to be against the idea of me and my brothers playing music.
But now, they even play along! Now my mum wants me to teach her drumming!

My brothers on the other hand, loves playing music to the core. So I made an agreement with them that I will get whatever they want if they give me good results in school and good behavior as well.
I will ban them from the music room when necessary.

This way, everyone gains and learn.

And never argue with your parents.
It will make things worse.

 

[infektivium]

i simply dont give a damn what my parents say, said, will say.