Any musicians exp tis b4?gif up guit or gf...

[TequilaSunrise]

It all boils down to how you want your life to be.

I'm 17, I don't need a girlfriend now. I just want to enjoy what I play (drums), rock out till I drop, feel the adrenaline rush on stage, etc etc. Some people beg to differ, but that's your opinion, not mine.

It's the same thing with my parents. They want me to grow up, study well and be a doctor / engineer / bio chemist etc etc. But I told them that I don't want to be like them, tied down to society, letting it hold YOU down instead of bringing you further. It's not my passion. That's my opinion, but obviously, they aren't quite receptive of it.

But think about it.

It's your life, its not up to your parents or girlfriend (worse, she's not even your wife yet so she can dump you anytime for someone better) to decide what your life should be like. It's up to YOU to decide how you want your life to turn out.

Think about it.

If she kicks up a fuss, tell her to F off. Break up, and you go find someone else that's better.

2 cents.

 

[detroit_red]

Seriously, if she doesnt allow you to play guitar, imagine all the stuff you cant do when you get married. Is she really that hot that you have to have her ..

 

[hay88]

tequila sunrise you rock!

 

[ClueJ]

Yeah man. i totally agree with TequilaSunrise!

 

[gutturalpiss]

great minds think alike

 

[strats]

great minds think alike

you girls never understand anything

 

[gutturalpiss]

precisely. bt thtz because they r a totali different entity. they r meant nt to understand so tht guys can always cheat on em. wee~

 

[RazrAsh]

haha.. u player u... not only play guitar, play girl also.. :lol:
ah well... there are many fish in the sea, so just go fishing... go find a fellow guitarist gf then.. then u guys can do a shredding, harmonising duet.. :lol: that would be such a turn on..

 

[tany]

RazrAsh

that's childish thinking! what i think, u 2 should sit down, have a good talk and compromise. i mean most relationships end up bad because they cant talk nicely and compromise! BGR isnt just a game or a show off thing, if u really want it when ur young, u have to bear and face the consequences be it good or bad! and u cant just say "give her up" or smth because of such a lil matter like guitar! what if next time u get a job that ur wife doesnt like? divorce ar?

 

[Nefianz]

if only my gf gave me a choice.. i'd give up anything for her.. not only the guitar.. can't blame me, we shared smt special for 4 years.. it was wonderful.. but she nids some time off..

 

[RazrAsh]

i'm saying in general mayb guys would opt for the breakup.. and i'm not that young anymore.. and my girl is a musician also, so i'm lucky...

 

[Marksman]

tany

The thing is, the thread starter only spent so little time with playing guitar and the girl still ask to choose btwn her and the guitar. Where's the justice in that?

 

[strats]

in my case it was my girlfriend being too busy with ther cca oh well. 2 years down the drain.

 

[tany]

haha RazrAsh good for u! but i didnt say u were young or smth! no offence!

so...stay single! that's the best!

 

[gutturalpiss]

eh. i give some of u kids some advice. becoz i feel like gautama buddha. want to get a gf/bf n take love to the maximum level of ur quota when ur nt evn settled down to get married, dont complain. bgr IS a game when ur far away frm the marrying age. girls below 18, dont complain abt it nt being a game unless ur ready to marry. get an established working bf then if u want to b trooly serious. coz itz just too bad most guys mature a great eternity later than u creatures. all the romeo n juliet secondary sch stories r fvcked up. evn i regret my days of drama. for those tht reli dedicate themselves to relationships bt get heartbroken instead, i sympathize w/ u.

 

[strats]

yeah its easy to see who hasn't matured here :roll:

 

[gutturalpiss]

see. u fail to recognise a matured lady.

 

[RentaBass]

At the end of the day, you really have to weigh the things you have on hand.

Are you set on becoming a professional musician and making a living out of it? Well, if you really are, then it's hard to make any compromises. Sad but true.

Do you play music because it was fun or cool to do so? Can you put down your instrument and not play for a few months and still feel normal? If you can, then you might as well devote more time to your partner, as music is obviously more of a recreational pasttime.

Do you feel really depressed if you're not able to pursue music, even if it wasn't professionally? In a case like this, you just want to play, even if it means jamming with your best friends as weekend warriors and taking small time gigs, just simply because you love playing. If so, it's obvious giving up music for your partner will cause a lot of resentment.

I belong to third group, so I make it clear that it's something I can't give up.

To each his own, let's not kill each other with sweeping statements.

 

[RazrAsh]

+1 to this statement.. music is not just a hobby to me, its a way of life... first thing i wake up in the morning i start playing my guitar, once i get back, my amp is on and i'm whacking away...

for ur info i'm 19 and engaged...

 

[subversion]

when it comes to life choices, choose the option that won't agrravate your current indulgences. everyone wants the best for themselves; for those of us who are attached, we want our partners & our guitar/ bass indulgences to receive equal attention from us for a simple reason- they both make us happy.

i am fortunate enough to have found a partner (now my wife) who understands my passion. she doesn't mind my guitar inclinations because it makes me happy + it makes me stay at home (where she spends most of her time). i'm not a pro-musician either & my partner understands the increasing domestic guitar population too (17 & counting...).

if you can't make things work for you, it seems that there is a little rectification to be done in terms of a successful life formula. i can't tell you THE formula because it's different for everyone.