yo dude, different ppl got different styles of learning, memorizing and playing songs..
gif her space dude.....
u dont really have to play exactly like the song youre covering ryte???
as for me, i play wat i want, how i want, as long as the basic skeleton is there..
as long as the different movement of the songs we play the correct structure...
for my case, how i learn songs, esp originals by own band, like wat i'm learning now, or even for cover songs, i will put them as phrases of 8 bars
easy to count, be it in 4/4, 6/8, 5/8 or watever
for songs that have constant timing changes, such as one bar of 6/8 and another bar of 5/8, and those 2 repeats themselves, i will put them as 1 pair
thoughout the songs, i will put as different movements, moods, soft or loud or cracking......
and certain movements, i will put a remark as to this part is about the same as another song (in this case, i'm talking about own originals)
like example, movement 1, riff about the same as DT's hell's kitchen, i put there as Hell's kitchen, so i know how to play and how that part sounds like....
movement 2, sounds like RHCP's under the bridge, i put there as under the bridge, so i know that movement is more of a funkier/alternative kind.. kind of nearly the same as the original RHCP's song....
once thats done, that piece of paper is your referance thoughout until youve mastered the song...
once again, like i've said, that's my method.. others have their own method...
so its up to them how they wanna memorize, learn the song...
give her space, badger.... no use pestering her till she get so fed-up and in the end, nothing comes out of that....