wife/girlfriend COMPLAINS when you spend money on gear

thats why we must hook up with female musicians... YOOHOO WHERE ARE YOU? (preparing for feminist flame attack)
 
My accounts teacher told us what she said to her husband.
My debts=your debts, your debts=your own debts.
Your money=my money, my money=my own money
So....
Your gear=my gear, my gear=my own gear. Jkjk. Share share la!:D
 
having a other half who understands your GASing needs and constant gear upgrades would definitely be a plus. but of course, if they chip in, that would be even better la. my gear is my gear! unless, of course, my other half is a drummer too lol. would be tough though!
 
TravisK said:
So what if they nag/complain? It's our freaking money what. Ask 'em to shut up. Don't be hen-pecked. Damn.
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Great attitude. You'll think differently when you're married with kids. If you are already, then I'd feel sorry for your family.

At some point, you will need to make compromises. Consider this: you get married and you and your wife both work with your own incomes. You can pretty much spend as you wish and you may have some loose agreement on co-saving or contribution towards big ticket items such as a property.

Then, imagine that your wife gets pregnant and has a baby or two and then has to stop working. The only income at this point is yours. Do you then consider the salary that you earn to be your own 'freaking money' that you can spend as you wish and tell your wife to 'shut up'? You wouldn't if you were at all responsible and it's nothing to do with being hen-pecked.

When/if this happens you will do well to come up with an agreement whereby whatever money coming in is apportioned to spending, saving, kid's expenses, housekeeping, 'wife salary' or whatever. This means that you can fairly put aside your bit and spend it on whatever you want without argument and you can live with a clear conscience (and hence enjoy your gear more) that you have done your part as a responsible provider before splashing out on your own luxury items. If she/he complains at this point, it's them being unfair and unreasonable. At this point, 'shut up' is fair. :)
 
I find it really amusing how much I have devalued the gear purchases I've made...My gibson costs 200-300 to her, my US fenders costs 400-600 plus each because "the colour special" and etc,all my pedals bought were like 20% of the actual amount I spent(some was even free!) but after a while she knew i was lying through my teeth everytime I tried to justify my purchases and looking through my credit card statements and then she accepted my addiction and its been 2 hours since my last gear purchase on ebay.
 
My gf threatens to throw my gear out the window someday if we get married. She doesn't want another love in my life.. help? :(
 
JHT said:
My gf threatens to throw my gear out the window someday if we get married. She doesn't want another love in my life.. help? :(
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Geez, are you sure your girlfriend is that bad? I mean, that's like really really unreasonable.

Anyway, I don't really have that much good gear right now, so I'm saving up to buy better gear. Luckily, my girlfriend is a musician herself and is able to understand my music needs.
 
JHT said:
My gf threatens to throw my gear out the window someday if we get married. She doesn't want another love in my life.. help? :(
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Sorry - but she's the wrong woman for you. If a partner can't accept you for something as simple as a hobby such as playing a musical instrument now before you are married, how do you imagine your life together in 50 years time? Will you be happy? Answer: no. Therefore, ditch her and find someone who loves you for who you are, including all your interests.
 
JHT said:
My gf threatens to throw my gear out the window someday if we get married. She doesn't want another love in my life.. help? :(
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holy what?
now isnt that fair. :( have you explained your interest and extreme passion for music?
thank god my bf and me are both in the music scene. easy to understand the other.
 
i have no problems because my boyfriend didn't scream when i bought two guitars in a week, and is himself gassing for soundcards and a second keyboard in the long run. thank goodness for understanding significant others!
 
two situations can arise if both play the same instruments...

1. pool together money and share! (aww, how loving)
2. argue about who gets to spend more on gear

goodluck to those with that situation!
 
ruixist: may get fights on who's or what gear better. hahah

i dont have a girlfriend, but when i do, i hope we have the same interest in music. or guitar. or singing. man i heard of a married couple who keep singing to each other at home songs suited to occasion. like girl open closet, guy sings 'its late in the evening...she's wondering what clothes to wear...' how sweet..

woa if girlfriend likes guitars, happy la!! can gas together!!

if i have family, i hope everyone likes the same music. bored ah, can jam together, in our very own home studio!! eheh
 
I personally have no preference but one very important condition would be that she doesn't mind my genre of music... I know a lot of bimbos who're like, "ooo techno R&B baby!!! What's this? Metal? Eww get lost..." -_-"
 
paganified said:
holy what?
now isnt that fair. :( have you explained your interest and extreme passion for music?
thank god my bf and me are both in the music scene. easy to understand the other.
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Yeah i did and im giving her time to accept that fact. Music is always my first love. :D

MadWereWolfBoy said:
I personally have no preference but one very important condition would be that she doesn't mind my genre of music... I know a lot of bimbos who're like, "ooo techno R&B baby!!! What's this? Metal? Eww get lost..." -_-"
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Yep i agree, most girls i know are into that R&B sean paul kinda thing including my gf.. For those who have a gf/wife with the same interest in music or even gear, then its all cool!
 
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Haha, my girlfriend is getting influenced with my musical tastes... She listens to a lot of pop and R&B and whatever that I don't listen to, but right now she's slowly beginning to listen to metal. For one, she can recognize Symphony X's very distinct guitar tone now! And I'm proud of her.

At least she's open with my music.

Anyway she's a pianist and I'm a pianist too... I don't think any problems will arise because of gears. If your girlfriend/wife understands you well, she will naturally be able to accept your spendings.

If she can't, you'll need to rethink about your relationship.
 
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