wife/girlfriend COMPLAINS when you spend money on gear

been with my better half since 1995
married in 2001

so when I want to buy gear, usually I performed 10/10.(married folks now what I mean) Both of us happy and enjoy.btw she's my finance minister. Women are generally better in accounts and money wise-yup, she's a degree holder in BA. I am just

so when I get the gear that I wanted, another performance for appreciation..always stock up on Tongkat Ali...

at the end of the day...Everybody happy..I am a simple man with simple needs
 
ok, i'm in the mood to talk about serious stuff tonight

for the bros who are not married but attached, i wonder how is it ever possible for a relationship to survive in the long run if either of you cannot accept simple and trivial things; like being a local rockstar. these are just little cracks in the relationship and they can be ignored for the time being. but when bigger trials surface, they will just deepen. you have to be honest with yourself and admit that the dynamics of the relationship is just not right. you can lie to yourself and try to save a sinking ship, but in the end if it does collapse, two people will be worse off

but if you are already married,
you are DOOOOOMED :twisted:
 
my 2 cents

my point of view is that, buying gears/gadgets for us musicians is exactly like girls buying their girly stuffs(clothes, shoes, handbags & et cetera). If i dont complain about her spending habits then why should she be right? I dont mind girls spending cos they want to look good for us husbands/boifrens right? so im sure they wont mind if we want to spend on stuff that makes us sound good on stage or at least look professional. :) in the end it all comes down to compromising. like adam lavigne sang, "its not always rainbows and butterflies its compromise that moves us along" I mean trivial matters like this arent supposed to be made mountains out of molehills.
 
its not easy, wasn't easy for me.. having a girlfriend took up lots of prac. time for me much less to say i have to spend it on her too. oh well SINGLEHOOD ftw! at the moment
 
vernplum said:
Great attitude. You'll think differently when you're married with kids. If you are already, then I'd feel sorry for your family.

At some point, you will need to make compromises. Consider this: you get married and you and your wife both work with your own incomes. You can pretty much spend as you wish and you may have some loose agreement on co-saving or contribution towards big ticket items such as a property.

Then, imagine that your wife gets pregnant and has a baby or two and then has to stop working. The only income at this point is yours. Do you then consider the salary that you earn to be your own 'freaking money' that you can spend as you wish and tell your wife to 'shut up'? You wouldn't if you were at all responsible and it's nothing to do with being hen-pecked.

When/if this happens you will do well to come up with an agreement whereby whatever money coming in is apportioned to spending, saving, kid's expenses, housekeeping, 'wife salary' or whatever. This means that you can fairly put aside your bit and spend it on whatever you want without argument and you can live with a clear conscience (and hence enjoy your gear more) that you have done your part as a responsible provider before splashing out on your own luxury items. If she/he complains at this point, it's them being unfair and unreasonable. At this point, 'shut up' is fair. :)
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HAha! I said all that in a view of being married with kids. And yes..that is after balancing out the finances. Sorry i didnt mention that. :)
I'm living well.
 
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