Parents- Supportive or unsupportive.

[slimshady]

Hi fellow softie,

I am a drummer of my band G40. Today let's discuss about parents.

Do you guys have supportive or unsupportive parents with regards to your music. Regardless of your music genre, do they go, "boy today you learn this tune, tomorrow you let me hear?" , or "girl, wow you really know how to work that keyboard!"

I can say i generally have musically unsupportive parents. Their mantra? " Music won't make you money." As my ord is round the corner, the next step for me is to go find a job. However, I have some auditions with some live band bars and some gigs lined up. So everyday is a little conflict. Mother will go, "when are you finding a job? Where's your money going to come from?" And i'd go, " come on, after my audition. What's the hurry? And she's go"...." and i'd go "...." and the auguement goes on til she says " Go clean your room." Parents always have to win don't they? What about my dreams?

When i see a nice drumming gear, say cymbal, or hats, etc i know i'd have to save up for it. My parents probably love me. But they do not love my music. HA.

My friend always say, " in the west, you can be a rocker to be a CEO. Here, you have to be a CEO before you become a rocker."

So what do you guys think?

Do you have supportive parents? Or not. Like mine.

 

[mysterio123]

Local music = no hope.
I suggest to find a job but at the same time practice with ur band also. unless u are earning money enough for yourself to survive then i guess u really have to be very good then u go practice with ur band. Parents are supportive only if they see u being independent and i dont think they will care what type of music u play if u earn big bucks. :mrgreen:

 

[shinobi]

from my experience, parents will kpkb no matter what.

it is just a question of what they will target.

and oso you will be sensitive to different things but in fact their level of kpkb is usually constant.

as you get older u tend to ignore this kind of thing. maybe thats how those elderly folk can say "my children don't listen to me anymore"

 

[shinobi]

also, in the west, you can become a superstar playing music. although it is extremely RARE, it is possible. in singapore, it is impossible. but singapore you will at most earn enough to 'cari makan'. thailand maybe can.

in fact every country north and south of singapore is better in things like sports and music, so maybe we are the axis of suck. we need to check the 'scene' in countries like equador and brunei darussalam to confirm.

just because a random african guy can wear gold chains, cut a record and make millions, it doesn't mean that it is a viable option. furthermore, if USA is an example, many hopeful artists are relatively poor and have no tertiary education etc. so they have nothing to lose. for us there is alot to lose.

but get this, the african dude made his black music and made it big in USA. he had to get out of africa to achieve stardom. in fact, it can be argued that USA is one of the few (maybe 2 or 3) countries where being extremely successful in music is even possible.

but that's not to say you will become damn successful if you get a 'normal' job. normal job also suffer. our country is run by multi-millionaires who don't even flinch when they lose billions in investments. as a result, singapore is unforgiving. if you can be satisfier with middle-lower class lifestyle, you will be fine.

don't worry lah, outside also no job. now's probably the best time to pursue music.

 

[mysterio123]

its isn't impossible. i can name a band which made it big from singapore.

IMPIETY.

Their myspace: http://www.myspace.com/impietyofficial

They even have their own wikipedia page. i envy them.

 

[AEnimic]

AXIS OF SUCK! That's such a cool phrase!

 

[EzaRitualBella]

well.....my parents quite supportive of me...

cause they know that playing music runs in the family
got this time during my n.s i book out and got not enough time to find or borrow a bass for a gig performance..
My dad bought it for it..even though during that time we have some finacial issues..he still buy it for me a 5 string bass..

 

[PORKO.]

[QUOTE=EzaRitualBella

Wahh, your father damn good man.
Mine doesnt really care much about me playing guitar.
Like, he doesnt complain when i'm playing for a few hours at a time.
But then again, he doesnt ask anything about me playing music, something like he's not interested.
The bad thing is, i gotta buy my own gear.
But at least i'm not banned or restricted by them like thread starter, so i'm satisfied.

And then again, maybe it's cause i'm only 16. I guess by the time i'm 20 something they'd start nagging.

 

[teleplayer]

I DON'T think they are supportive of me... but they don't show it..

Most of the people living in asia are chinese... older chinese has this mentality that those jobs like acting/performing are very low-class... since singapore is dominated by a lot of chinese, so it's quite inevitable for people to be not open-minded to music... even they are, they will be open-minded to music that are famous...

just my opinion.

 

[EzaRitualBella]

well my dad he use to be in a rock band also

playing and covering bands such as dio,europe and so on...

his a die hard fan of dio haha
so yeah....

 

[trickstop]

you can't really blame parents for being this way. the way i see it, all they want is for us to have a future, and you can't blame them when our scene is small.

so, if you're confident that your options as a musician will take you far, then just grit your teeth and show them one day you've made it. if you realise that you've just got your head in the clouds, then better start looking at your other options or you'll be kicking yourself 20 years down the road for not listening to your folks while you had the chance.

 

[mus]

My parents are pretty supportive of my brother and me. When I started playing guitar, my dad bought me an acoustic guitar for my birthday. He did the same for my brother. We still keep our acoustic guitars. When we wanted to get our first guitar package, my parents brought us to the guitar shop to get it.

Recently, my dad drove me all the way to Woodlands (I stay in Bedok) because I wanted to get a pair of patch cables and a Beta Aivin pedal. He bought my brother a new gig bag and an effect pedal. To me, they showed quite a lot of support. I don't remember at any point of time that they got angry or didn't show any support that we played music. Oh! And they came to our first gig! .

 

[Mr. Mouse]

My parents are unsupportive too! Although they aren't against me playing music and stuff, but they say that it's not good being a full time musician in Singapore as like what others said, no hope. But my parents say half-time musician is fine with them though.

And I have to agree with them. I mean, well it's the truth!

 

[kongwee]

[QUOTE=teleplayer

Yup.... since dunno when china musicians were and are a class above prostitution. There are religions and scholars that treat music seriously but ancient common people treat it not this way. Still pass it till now. These are the words that told by one of my china dizi master. Their neighbour Japan, treat music as a form of art and respect. They preserve many china ancient music instrument making. China have to go Japan to replicate some of these instrument. From ancient, western to modern mainstream, Japanese musician has very high status and respect even they are no well off. That why they have the world second biggest music market and still growing.

 

[bigblackbear]

My friend always say, " in the west, you can be a rocker to be a CEO. Here, you have to be a CEO before you become a rocker."

omg, that's what y parents say too! well, sorta.

she tells me, why be a rock star and have no one to watch you, when you can be a boss that everyone knows. And when you're the boss, even people who don't like you will also have to watch you play

but she's not that unsupportive. she helped contribute $$ in many of my equipments

 

[Sunderring]

[QUOTE=mus

wow, you have cool parents.
Mine doesn't support me financially after they bought me my first guitar. Well, at least they don't stop me from making noises!

 

[theliverevolution]

haha, I'm on my own for this one, sadly to say. My parents don't really support me, they just keep telling me to concentrate on my studies when I get into uni next year.
But argh, who cares. I need something to run away to when i'm sick of studying

 

[theusedrocks]

but like most parents, they do say that it's hard to earn money out of playing music and all...which is true.

 

[mus]

Sunderring: Thanks! I'm lucky to have parents like that. They also said if I can make it with music, why not?. No harming trying.

 

[PatheinRaindropMoe]

for once, lets see it from another direction,

give 5 reasons, why parent must be supportive of their child(even though education, pocket money, house to stay, internet connection, laptop, computers etc etc are provided for)

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