Blurred...I see where you're coming from. Its important to specify which genre you're tagging the advise to...otherwise those beginners looking into jazz or latin will start pounding the bass drum like there's no tomorrow....
However, regardless of genre....there shouldn't be a only "one-way" feel...listen to recordings and learn as many different ways to groove as possible. Even rock/pop settings have many ways to groove. Here's 2 examples from 2 killer drummers with great groove thats has different balances....
Eg.
1) I will survive by Cake: Bass drum is on the softer side...hats is the big one here
2) You oughta know by Alanis Morissette: Bass drum softer again...hats and snare are much louder
Moral of the story is...check out as many recordings as possible at your own free time....
Just a question, i was wondering if actually some of this was not totally intentional during the making of the track - the bass drum could have been much louder but miked down? So actually the drummer could have been playing very loud.
Cause i feel that most drummers (sans jazz) actually hit a lot harder than they sound on the record.
That said being able to recreate acoustically is important as well.