bobwiramuzzy01
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Wats your impression when you first saw me?:mrgreen:
does it piss you off?
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Wats your impression when you first saw me?:mrgreen:
i AGREE to this! haha.
esp the fact that the store owners treat students differently..
Godspeed64
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Hahaha.. I was super groggy man! But you look like a nice guy! Lol..
From your sms also you seem nice.. :-D
bobwiramuzzy01
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LOL... people always say "First Impression Lasts"
Back then in the mid 90's, I was always stopped by police patrol car whenever I came home late just b'cos i had long hair. Everywhere I go, people gave me strange looks as if I own them money or anything. kind of piss me off also. but then, got used to it. even my mom nags at me for keeping long hair. LOL LOL LOL :mrgreen:
Back then in the mid 90's, I was always stopped by police patrol car whenever I came home late just b'cos i had long hair. Everywhere I go, people gave me strange looks as if I own them money or anything. kind of piss me off also. but then, got used to it. even my mom nags at me for keeping long hair. LOL LOL LOL :mrgreen:
AEnimic
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Why do their comments/remarks/judgements even matter to you? Shouldn't you 'rockers' have this heck-care attitude regarding society's view on you?
That said, you cannot run away from the fact that people will judge you from their first impression of you, which means the way you dress. Arrive for a job interview in a sweaty mizuno running top and fbt short shorts and you can be damn sure they'll swipe you off their list before you even utter a word.
^I think you're amazing.
Rockers really shouldn't care. I realise alot of Singapore rockers actually do care how they're look in public.
0.02c
recklessnick
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whether you like it or not, appearance is appearance and everyone's (even you) first impression is from people's appearance and dressing
Very true. We all do it. In fact, we aren't looked at as rockers per se but more we are looked at based on our worth. Rockers and non-mainstream folks are usually seen as being worth less than mainstream folks, usually from a financial POV.
FWIW, I used to lecture at a college and a local uni and I had very long har, even beaded them for a 6-month period. I wore mostly bermudas and sandals to lectures. Everyone was cool with me, including the dean seemed pleasantly amused. The only 'objection' or slightly freaked out look I got was from my HOD, who turned out to be a lesbo.
I also get stopped, often, at airports for additional baggage checks by customs. lol!
YOu are who you are. In you dress like a rocker chances are you are one. Whether you deserve to be looked down at for being one depends on your attitude towards life and towards others - the same holds true for mainstream folks. They can dress prim and proper but if they can't do a proper day's work and cheat and lie their way through their lifes then they are worth as much as a lump of turd.
Just be who you are. But do good as much as you can and be the best that you can be in anything that you do.
RoRK
AnnaKnowsYourSecret
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Yay!Finally some points for my essay due on monday!
but yea there are many rockers in singapore that actually holds high positions in law firms,companies,etc. & they have to dress like the classy sort when they go for company dinners&meetings & whatnots but they still stay true to their music& most importantly themselves.Plus when you see them at gigs you wont have a clue that they're holding senior positions.
but yea there are many rockers in singapore that actually holds high positions in law firms,companies,etc. & they have to dress like the classy sort when they go for company dinners&meetings & whatnots but they still stay true to their music& most importantly themselves.Plus when you see them at gigs you wont have a clue that they're holding senior positions.
drownedout
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looks aren't everything
rx7
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Some people ask me why i dress up metal. I tell them because i like it. And some of em will say how old are you already why still dress up like that? And i always say i didnt dress up like this to fit into anything, i just like metal, and the dressing. I dont give a f*ck what you guys think of me. But usally i will shoot them back asking why you dress like everyone else on the street? So now you cool ah follow trend? But in actual fact i dont give a f*ck what my friends wear too
Dime
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its all character beb.i once saw this lecturer which i hated his looks to the core.btw he looks like some kind of man whore so...anyways his character changed my perception about him.really a good joker and helpful advises.that taught me not to judge a book by its cover.
to topic: i hateit if people call me an emo cause they say i dress like one.but in actual fact dont and i dont do emo-style kinda hair even tho i have lenghty hair.or even worst label me a matrep.should at themselves in the morror.
to topic: i hateit if people call me an emo cause they say i dress like one.but in actual fact dont and i dont do emo-style kinda hair even tho i have lenghty hair.or even worst label me a matrep.should at themselves in the morror.
Eh! You not one of my former students right? ;-)
I also get stopped when entering exam halls when I have to invigilate exams. Bloody security guards think I'm a student and won't allow me in with my bag. lol. Happens all the time. Bloody security guards, the hokkien peng types, poor chaps never knew the flower power generation. And I actually have to push them away to let myself into the examination hall! The last time, when I got in, even the other lecturers thought I was a student!
Thank goodness my faculty's office rep was there to intervene. Because I was pretty worked up after some drinks and no sleep for the past 36 hours!!!!!
I just want to add that other than being yourself, take note that you have to earn a living some day. Live on your own. Pay your bills. Wash your clothes. Do the drill, IOW. There's a time to have fun as you grow up, with music (and its culture) being one of your close friends. But someday, you'll have to stand on your own and be counted for.
There's a reason for everything, even the bad. As much as the good. You can't be right all the time. Someday, you will be yourself, and chances of that happening usually happens after you're 21. So, don't take things too harshly, especially if you're doing what you want, as a teenager or a young adult.
Because, in true life, you never ever get to do what you want, all the time. There are very few rockstars in the world. I don't know of one in Singapore. So chill, have fun. And enjoy yourselves but don't take things too seriously and stay off cheap drugs.
When you start paying your own bills, then that is day when you truly become yourself. Give yourself time. Because that day will come. Just don't be surprised who you turn out to be.
I also get stopped when entering exam halls when I have to invigilate exams. Bloody security guards think I'm a student and won't allow me in with my bag. lol. Happens all the time. Bloody security guards, the hokkien peng types, poor chaps never knew the flower power generation. And I actually have to push them away to let myself into the examination hall! The last time, when I got in, even the other lecturers thought I was a student!
Thank goodness my faculty's office rep was there to intervene. Because I was pretty worked up after some drinks and no sleep for the past 36 hours!!!!!
I just want to add that other than being yourself, take note that you have to earn a living some day. Live on your own. Pay your bills. Wash your clothes. Do the drill, IOW. There's a time to have fun as you grow up, with music (and its culture) being one of your close friends. But someday, you'll have to stand on your own and be counted for.
There's a reason for everything, even the bad. As much as the good. You can't be right all the time. Someday, you will be yourself, and chances of that happening usually happens after you're 21. So, don't take things too harshly, especially if you're doing what you want, as a teenager or a young adult.
Because, in true life, you never ever get to do what you want, all the time. There are very few rockstars in the world. I don't know of one in Singapore. So chill, have fun. And enjoy yourselves but don't take things too seriously and stay off cheap drugs.
When you start paying your own bills, then that is day when you truly become yourself. Give yourself time. Because that day will come. Just don't be surprised who you turn out to be.
Crawldaddy
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Hmm.
I gotta say something, and that is:
If you dress according to how you feel you can express yourself, then power to you. As long as you know what you are doing rather than doing it for the sake of "following a trend". I just tend to feel uncomfortable with people who are compelled to dress up with whatever's the "in-thing" when some fad comes along.
That said, keeping one's comment to oneself really is the way I go about this issue. Unless that person is close to me, or is someone I care about... if they look good, I'll feel good for them too.
I personally tend to change my image depending on what I do, be it jamming, going for lessons, booking out from camp whatever. It's all about practicality and of course the kind of impression you want to give somebody. No matter what you do, it's always a better thing to dress appropriately.
I gotta say something, and that is:
If you dress according to how you feel you can express yourself, then power to you. As long as you know what you are doing rather than doing it for the sake of "following a trend". I just tend to feel uncomfortable with people who are compelled to dress up with whatever's the "in-thing" when some fad comes along.
That said, keeping one's comment to oneself really is the way I go about this issue. Unless that person is close to me, or is someone I care about... if they look good, I'll feel good for them too.
I personally tend to change my image depending on what I do, be it jamming, going for lessons, booking out from camp whatever. It's all about practicality and of course the kind of impression you want to give somebody. No matter what you do, it's always a better thing to dress appropriately.
I think your last para is true to most folks as they reach a certain age where society knocks on the door - really really loudly. I do what I want when I have to is closer to the truth. And not I do what I want.
The younger Softies should realise this.
Most often, I wear a shirt, bermudas and sandals (decent looking ones lah) to lectures. But if I truly wanted to dress like how I feel, then it would be bermudas, sandals (maybe slippers or the occasional shoe) and a singlet.
But the singlet is off course a no-no. Armpit hair and tattoo showing is not a good thing even for flower child RoRK, but onl yin the context of being a lecturer/trainer or at meetings with clients.
But truly, I don't give a heck, the only reason singlets are out is that I'm there to teach something. It's not about me being there and hence I shouldn't have anything on me that is too distracting. Albeit, I must admit that the beads that were there were probably distracting - but I too fall from grace.
What's important is to be who you are. And to feel good about it.
But above and beyond that is to do what is right. If you can do the right thing and be yourself, without losing yourself and feeling that you have fallen short of yourself, the standards that you set for yourself, then kudos to you!
Because life is about living with others. Doing your part. And doing all these while being yourself. You can be first as often as you like but you cannot be first all the time.
Life and society needs you as much as you need them. WIthout them, one is close to being nothing.
The younger Softies should realise this.
Most often, I wear a shirt, bermudas and sandals (decent looking ones lah) to lectures. But if I truly wanted to dress like how I feel, then it would be bermudas, sandals (maybe slippers or the occasional shoe) and a singlet.
But the singlet is off course a no-no. Armpit hair and tattoo showing is not a good thing even for flower child RoRK, but onl yin the context of being a lecturer/trainer or at meetings with clients.
But truly, I don't give a heck, the only reason singlets are out is that I'm there to teach something. It's not about me being there and hence I shouldn't have anything on me that is too distracting. Albeit, I must admit that the beads that were there were probably distracting - but I too fall from grace.
What's important is to be who you are. And to feel good about it.
But above and beyond that is to do what is right. If you can do the right thing and be yourself, without losing yourself and feeling that you have fallen short of yourself, the standards that you set for yourself, then kudos to you!
Because life is about living with others. Doing your part. And doing all these while being yourself. You can be first as often as you like but you cannot be first all the time.
Life and society needs you as much as you need them. WIthout them, one is close to being nothing.
petrina_123
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Firstly I dont care what they think, or say
secondly I dont give a damn
secondly I dont give a damn
i used to be the "fcuk it la. not ur problem wat" attitude when comes to my dressing and all.
when i started to work as a part timer in my current job now, ppl thought i cannot make it bcoz i look like the heck care type. wit long hair and gotti. some even tell me tat if i want to be full timer, must cut hair and shave my gotti. they looked dwn on me for my appearance. from there i prove it to them tat i dont nid to do all that.
completed all my tasks given perfectly,do a good job. get big bosses recognitions and support.
God is fair, i was pulled in as a full timer. good paying job and the only guy with long hair and gotti!
shut everyone's mouth and climb over them.
even my Aussie big boss keeps a gotti now.
ok my morale of the story is, YES your looks counts but try to lessen on the "fcuk it la. not ur problem wat" attitude.
its better to prove wats ur worth.
anyways, abt long hair and gotti.
i hate it when girls say "eh boon, go cut ur hair la. like girl. and shave tat gotti. like goat!"
BUT
when an angmoh wif long hair (the type like nuno or petit-france footballer) walks pass...
"wah... so cute... nice sial his hair..."
WTF
when i started to work as a part timer in my current job now, ppl thought i cannot make it bcoz i look like the heck care type. wit long hair and gotti. some even tell me tat if i want to be full timer, must cut hair and shave my gotti. they looked dwn on me for my appearance. from there i prove it to them tat i dont nid to do all that.
completed all my tasks given perfectly,do a good job. get big bosses recognitions and support.
God is fair, i was pulled in as a full timer. good paying job and the only guy with long hair and gotti!
shut everyone's mouth and climb over them.
even my Aussie big boss keeps a gotti now.
ok my morale of the story is, YES your looks counts but try to lessen on the "fcuk it la. not ur problem wat" attitude.
its better to prove wats ur worth.
anyways, abt long hair and gotti.
i hate it when girls say "eh boon, go cut ur hair la. like girl. and shave tat gotti. like goat!"
BUT
when an angmoh wif long hair (the type like nuno or petit-france footballer) walks pass...
"wah... so cute... nice sial his hair..."
WTF
That's why i like to work at jobs where alternative dressing is either accepted or encouraged. I think looks shouldn't matter too much when it comes to judging someone.
It's whats on the inside that counts.
For my dressing, its really casual, just a sleeveless top and jeans and shoes, often getting labelled cuz i dont happen to fit into anyone's expectations of what a particular scene should look like. I don't wear skinnies and i have a mohawk and multiple piercings. but i've somewhat commercialised dressing, so it kinda throws people off.
But then, i work basically in the nightlife scene so alternative dressing is somewhat encouraged.
But its quite true, most S'poreans tend to stereotype us a being a bad influence and not worth anything to society. But then, because of that, they do not take the time to get to know the person beneath the facade, hence the stereotyping.
It's whats on the inside that counts.
For my dressing, its really casual, just a sleeveless top and jeans and shoes, often getting labelled cuz i dont happen to fit into anyone's expectations of what a particular scene should look like. I don't wear skinnies and i have a mohawk and multiple piercings. but i've somewhat commercialised dressing, so it kinda throws people off.
But then, i work basically in the nightlife scene so alternative dressing is somewhat encouraged.
But its quite true, most S'poreans tend to stereotype us a being a bad influence and not worth anything to society. But then, because of that, they do not take the time to get to know the person beneath the facade, hence the stereotyping.