Let’s put ourselves into our Neighbours shoes for now. Drumming can be at times be quite irritating (as it is loud and really depends on what we are practicing-this is true) some can take it some cannot – as their Threshold level are all at different level.
Now these are the Parties Involve now:-
(1) Started with me Drumming
(2) The Complaining Neighbour
(3) The Police then
(4) The HDB
(5) The CC People – where there will be a MP
(6) The Media
From (3) The Police (4) HDB (5) CC People to (6) The Media - - - - - All these parties that got involve – in actual facts aims for one thing in common and that’s - - The Problem can be resolve through Mutual Understanding and Compromising each other on their part.
The entire Problem from beginning to now - - is The Drummer (me of course) and (The Complaining Neighbour) - - -- This is the root of the problem which can only be resolve through – Compromisation.
Therefore for me the best course of action is - - - Resolve this among ourself (if possible)and I will try my best here to the best as I could to talk to the Neighbour – as a gesture of respect and strike a best solution among us – where I could carry on my Drumming Hobby and not disturbing them in all the time. If this can be achieved then – The problem is resolve right away, Isn’t this the Best Solution and it depicts Resonableness and Respect among one another.
Why go through all these (the people from 2 to 6) were ultimately involve because of above core reasons.
To me Compromising is the Key if achievable (in this case quite difficult but yet I must try my best) and I did through my course of actions, rather than - - - - - Fighting for “Let’s Talk About The Law”
Yes the Law as an example here according to the Police (I can drum till 10pm) after that don’t cause I might be disturbing the entire neighbourhood) for instance does not means that I will if I need to – Practice my drumming till 10pm as I need to spare a though for others living in the same vicinity as me…..This call compromising on my part – rather than quoting The Law (I can drum till 10pm - - - - which I used to think or feel this way but I’m wrong and I learn on my part as we all learn throughout our life journey – that I have to spare a though for others too). By Compromising in a way yes Ego is somehow forgo on my part. But what is Ego anyway?
As a Moderator of Soft, I’ve indeed learn as time pass (how to resolve a conflict as best as I could). As a Committee of DXS, a Drummer and as a Person we try to be Socially Responsible, if issues like these crops up. Try resolving problems in the best means and this is what I am sharing with all of you on how I approach this now. I am not saying everyone here must and will take this route that I took (if it happens – touch-wood I hope it never will), but - - - This is how I am going to handle this now.
These kind of issues is best to be resolve directly with the complaining neighbour.