To threadstarter:
You might have a BIG misconception about E-kits. NOT all the pads are made from rubber! The cheapest and most affordable one would definately be the Pintech E-gig... (ask alvin or head over ezimusic.com for more info)
They use the Mesh heads for their heads.. and FYI, they would sound like what a streched synthetic fibre would... with a slight tone and definately very very quiet..
For feel wise, yes e-kits really loses it but if you have the money, here's your option:
1) Get urself a beat up old crappy drumset with at least the shells and rims are in good condition.
2) Invest on a really good module such as the TD-20 from Roland. OR If your in the budget range, go for lower end modules such as the Alesis Dm5.
3) DIY your own triggers... More info can be found at
www.vdrums.com under forums (diy section) or u can google it.. There's lotsa links...
4) All you need now is necessary cables, MESH HEADS and all your time and effort to create your DIY'ed toms.
5) PLug and PLay.. Now no one can stop you from playing... they won't even disturb you playing 3 am in the morning!
There are lots of people who had done their "cheap" conversion for A to Z but there are also High end's stuff..
Here's a dude, a crazy dude i must say...
He's conversions can be found here:
http://www.letsjamonline.com/bandsite/jman/
Even the PDP LXE he made into a A to EZ!
IMHO, the silent pads, silent mesh and dampening methods for a drums is really not that good..
1) silent pads - takes away the bounce, Drums sound really nasty.
2) Mesh heads, you wont hear anything.
3) Dampening methods such as stuffing foam or newspapers or whatnot in ur drums, really spoils the sound lah...
I've made a heck lot of research and i've decided to go for electronic conversions, but overwhelmed by it's time commitment and such, i think an acoustic kits better off for me.
Think of ur time commitments that u can commit to drumming... If ur a professional drummer, might as well get them A to Ez conversions...
From Jman's site, you can save all the hassle and just BUY the triggers themselves... all u need is just a module and some beat old drums to house the triggers...
Disclaimer: Im not in affiliations or in any signed endorsements with those mentioned brands but it's what i would recommend! - haha i wished i was..
So all that being said, u have lots of choices in your hand, so make the right one...