Hey yeah that's a good point. For those who live in a HDB flat, why don't you review your playing technique? perhaps you are playing too hard, too brash, too loud. I've never had problems yet (i live in a HDB). I never play hard at all. If you're looking to practice metal drumming, then I suggest to move out. If you practice 'normal' pop/rock drumming then i suppose its fine.
Maybe use light rimshots for backbeats instead of whacking the snare, then when you really play in performances you just rimshot harder.